wedding vendor language

It’s true! Event professionals have their own special language. Acronyms and special words that mean something to us. It’s just like any other industry. We try to use normal language when clients so they aren’t confused. So if you’ve heard a few of these words or abbreviations, here it goes:


Stands for: Banquet Event Order. Your venue or caterer will deliver a BEO to you before your event. You must read carefully over this document before signing it. It is basically everything that will happen at your event.


Stands for: Food and Beverage. Because if you work in catering, clearly you are too exhausted to say all three words.


Stands for: Save the Date. Did you think it was something else? (And the twelve-year-old girl in me still giggles when I use it).


Stands for: Request for Proposal. Actually, this is a typical business term.


It’s a decorative plate that is at your place setting before dinner service begins. The catering staff will serve your salad and/or entree and place on top of the charger.

high tops

Gathering tables, Tall Boys, and more … these are smaller tables that are tall. They’re placed strategically in areas for guests to rest and put their glasses/appetizers on.

clear mid or span

This is tent talk: you can upgrade the roof of your tent to have a clear vinyl. It’s like a moonroof to your tent.


I actually had a groom ask me what that is. It’s the tablecloth/fabric that goes on tables. Easy, right?

banquet table

Nonwedding professionals may refer to this table as, “rectangle tables”. The correct term is “banquet”.

60″ or 72″ rounds

The round guest tables that are traditionally used at banquets/receptions. The difference is the size. A 60″ round (or 5′ round) will seat 8 guests comfortably. A 72″ round (or 6′ round) will seat 10 people comfortably.

ghost chairs

Clear acrylic chairs, very modern.


Easy for you to spell. These are chairs that have “bamboo” like legs and backing. It’s the chairs you see in every Pinterest board.


You know the lit monogram you see on a dance floor or wall? Or a lighted pattern on the ceiling? That’s made from a custom gobo (light). The actual gobo is a thin metal insert that has the diagram cut into it.

pin spot

Ever see a wedding cake or a centerpiece that looks like it has a mini spotlight on it? That’s a pin spot.


This is not a bunch of workers holding signs and standing on the curb. It simply refers to the act of loading out at the end of the evening.

There’s so much more to list, but this was a good start. Wedding professionals, what did I miss? Please leave a comment!

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state laws about your wedding bar …

Hello lovelies! It’s been a minute since our last post. Summer and fall are so busy and then winter hits, and it’s time to deal with all your personal goals that you’ve put off working every week and weekends. Blogging gets put in the back burner.

Today we need to talk about a serious and non-sexy topic: your bar at your wedding and bartenders. We’ve touched before on some drinking issues, but this post is specifically to cover the laws and what is important for you to know as a guest, wedding party member or family attending a wedding.

We’ll concentrate on the laws of Indiana, however, the laws are pretty similar state-wide with a few different nuisances.

Here are the laws:

  1. Excise Police encourage requiring identification from anyone appearing under 26 years of age when making sales for on-premise consumption. Acceptable forms of identification are picture ID’s, including but not limited to, a driver’s license, state-issued ID card, US Government identification. REMEMBER: If you still question the age of the person you should refuse to serve them.

Let’s discuss: This means, that whether you are a family member, guest or in the wedding party, if you are over the age of 21, you must carry a legal, picture ID with you and on your person. Being a bridesmaid and not having a little purse with your driver’s license won’t cut it. The bride’s father cannot vouch for you. The caterer with the liquor license will be subject with a minimum of $500 fine and/or higher if caught serving a minor.

2. It is a criminal offense to sell or furnish alcoholic beverages to an intoxicated person. In addition, the provider may experience civil liabilities if death or injury, even to a third party, occurs as a result of the act.

Oh-oh. So, let’s be kind to bartenders who have to cut off Uncle Harry, who is drunky-drunkerson.

3. Minors (those under 21 years of age) need to know that, in accordance with Indiana Code 7.1-5-7-7, it is illegal to knowingly:

  • Possess alcohol
  • Consume alcohol
  • Transport alcohol on a public highway when not accompanied by at least one of his/her parents or guardians.

No more discussion needed. Source.

If you don’t believe the excise police make random checks at restaurants, bars, liquor stores, sporting events, AND weddings, then check out Indiana violations that are clearly listed here. There are event venues where we plan weddings and corporate events that are often visited, very discreetly by Indiana excise police.

Take away:

  1. Remind your wedding party to bring their driver’s license to the reception.
  2. Don’t get upset with your caterer or bartender when they cannot serve someone who doesn’t have proper identification. They are not trying to be difficult. They don’t want to pay fines or potentially lose their license (too many infractions).
  3. Consider hiring a sheriff to be on-site. Many venues require it.
  4. Finally, some people just need to be cut off from the alcohol and turned over to a responsible, sober person to take them home.
feature photo credit: equinox photography

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chinese sky fly fire lanterns at your wedding

Update: Guess what kids? According to this site, Indiana has banned the use of sky lanterns. As of now, Kentucky still allows it.

Everyone loves the Chinese Sky Fly Fire lanterns at the end of their wedding. They are sweet, romantic and make for awesome photos! However, as planners, we are the ones behind-the-scenes making sure that this event (if incorporated in your wedding) goes off without a hitch.

Besides the obvious fact of having a lot of room in the sky for the lanterns to take flight in the air and understanding that you cannot, I repeat, cannot light these if winds that are over 10mph … we thought we’d give you some real tips on the Chinese lanterns.

hot tips on creating an awesome chinese lantern event at your wedding:

1. Buy lanterns that are already assembled. 

These thin paper products range in prices. You may be tempted to purchase the cheapest ones. Stop. Do not do it. You’ll deeply regret it and probably burn yourself. The cheap ones require you to assemble the burning mechanism in the lantern in advance. It’s time consuming and often will not stay in place. If you DO get it lit, sometimes the “on-fire” burning portion will fall out … while the lantern is in air. And that may land on you! So spend the extra money per lantern.

chinese sky fly fire lanterns 1

2. Buy disposable lighters that are “wind resistant”.

This is almost as important as the type of lanterns you purchase. Lighting the lanterns is the biggest headache of all. You’ll want to use lighters that you would use for the grill (I’m sure you already thought of that). But if there is any type of breeze, the lighters are hard to use. Especially with the child safety. Your thumb grows tired and it is frustrating. Opt to spend a little extra and purchase a wind resistant lighter. It is disposable but when lit, looks like a little butane flame. We like the Coleman brand.

chinese sky fly fire lanterns 2

3. Have sober people disperse the lanterns and manage the lighters.

If we are onsite, that is us! But if you haven’t opted to get a wedding professional to help you with your day, then designate someone that will be sober. The management of getting the lanterns distributed and actually lit will make the process safer. Trust this.

4. Trash cans.

Unless you unpack each individual lantern (from the packing cellophane in advance), you’ll need a trash receptical to collect a lot of packing material. Even then, sometimes you need to throw away ripped lanterns. Keep your reception looking neat.

chinese sky fly fire lanterns 3

5. Don’t forget music in the background.

This isn’t critical, but since we are always thinking about a great guest experience, don’t forget about having some background music as you watch the lanterns float away into the air. The last time we did this, we simply moved a boom box (it was a quality one) outside and played a few pre-designated songs. No need for moving out your DJ’s equipment, as this event usually happens at the end of the evening anyway.

Final words, there is an art to doing these, so practice in advance. But always be sure to do so in a safe area. Not in the middle of your subdivision with a lot of trees. Over water (with proper direction of the wind) is the best environment.

photo credit: photorexit photography

ps The photos above were “in real life” photos as we tried to get lanterns lit in too strong of winds. The photographers and us had a great time with it. And due to the winds, we had to cancel this event.

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get your wedding guests dancing …

We have the coolest clients who are willing to try something, a little different. Especially when it comes to getting your wedding guests dancing!

This fall we had a client, Rachel Adams Sansing, who implemented a brilliant idea on getting everyone on the dance floor. She also has a kick-ass blog, just in case you were wondering. Back to the story.

the formal dances were switched up

  1. First Dance as a Couple
  2. Mother of the Groom / Son Dance went first (as everyone knows this is the last dance)
  3. Father of the Bride / Bride Dance

This is when it got interesting. Shortly into the dance, the Rachel and her father stopped dancing and ran out to get new partners. The two couples danced for awhile.

Then they stopped and ran out and got new partners. And so on, and so on. Until the dance floor was completely filled!!

Then the DJ kicked off Open Dancing and everyone was up and moving immediately after the end of the formalities. It was so cool!

Would you consider doing this?

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welcome your guests at your wedding reception…

I adore it when the Father of the Bride (who may be the host of the wedding) gives a welcome at the reception. After the wedding couple is announced, the Father will take center stage and “welcome” all the guests to the evening.

few things to keep in mind:

  1. This is not a toast. No need for holding a drink.
  2. Very important to remember to talk about both families, don’t leave anyone out.
  3. Recognize your special guests. If you have a lot of out-of-town guests it’s fun to call out …. “Welcome guests from California, Boston, Texas …”
  4. Keep it short and sweet.
  5. Be the host. Act as though you were in your own dining room. What would you say if you had guests and wanted to welcome them to your home?

Be sure to add this event to your wedding timeline!

featured photo credit: jordan barclay photography

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