seeing each other before the wedding ceremony: part three

This week the blog is concentrating on the subject of whether your should see or not see each other before the wedding. Couples want their day to be special and think that by seeing each other before the wedding they may somehow “lose” that. Let’s think this out…

what really happens when you walk down the aisle

You’ll have to trust me, since I actually have walked down the aisle before. And if you don’t want to listen to me, then please go talk to a friend that has gotten married. When you are a bride, you dream about what it will be like to have the church doors open, your arm anchored by your dad and how while you walk down the aisle,  your eyes will “lock” on your future husband’s face and it will be a moment that will surpass any other moments you have ever had.

What you didn’t take into account is the 200 other pair of eyes on you at the same time. You see your a good friend who flew in across the country just for the wedding, Aunt Betsy smiling at you, maybe a kid crying….all distracting from your focused vision on your groom’s face.

Instead, we submit to you that the walk down the aisle becomes ANOTHER “special moment” for the both of you. Trust me, you’ll still be excited, nervous and anxious. But not because you haven’t seen him or her or not because you don’t know what he or she is feeling. It will be the natural excitement that comes when you are about to get married.

Tomorrow we’ll talk about the emotional positives of seeing each other before the wedding. Get ready….there are plenty, some of which you probably haven’t considered.

featured photo credit: amy shepherd photography

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seeing each other before the wedding ceremony: part two

The topic this week is exploring the positives of taking the time to see each other before the actual wedding ceremony on your wedding day. It’s understandable to want to dismiss this idea since every bride and groom wants to have that special moment during their day. That’s why when we have clients who decide to meet each other, we make it as special as possible.

the meeting

For our clients we work with the timeline and photographer to create a special moment that is just for the two of you. We arrange for the groom to wait at a location; sometimes it is at the altar, or in a room, or outside in a pretty location. We’ll ask the wedding party, family and friends to please leave the area. And then we’ll go get the bride. That’s when the bride and groom can see each other in private. The only people are the photographer and videographer (but they are quiet and at a distance as to not intrude).

what happens at the meeting?

We’re firm believers that the most important thing on your wedding day is the two of you and the fact that you are taking vows to commit yourself to another person. Picking out the flowers and colors is all good fun, but not the most important aspect of your wedding.

When a couple gets to meet before the wedding, the groom is able to take his time and really look at his bride. Notice the details of her dress, her hair, the way her makeup is done. It’s a perfect time to talk about what you are about to do, exchange gifts or love notes, cry, laugh and enjoy the fact that you are about to embark upon an interesting journey.

Take a look at these photos of some very special clients of ours; notice how each groom is looking at his future wife.

above photos credit: jordan barclay

Does any of these pics look like they “missed” out on something special or possibly, did these couples carve out a part of the day that will always be just for “them”?

Tomorrow we’ll talk about some other points as to why it’s a great idea to see each other BEFORE the wedding.

featured photo credit: jordan barclay photography

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seeing each other before the wedding ceremony :: part one

This week’s blog series we will be discussing the pro’s of a controversial wedding subject, “Whether or not the bride and groom should see each other before the wedding.” This topic can be a real heated debate among brides & grooms, family and friends.

author disclaimer

Before we begin exploring this debate, please take into consideration this author’s disclaimer. As a planner, I firmly believe that it is up to you to make the final decision whether to see or not see each other. It makes me, nor any other wedding vendor (namely the photographer) any difference on how you would like your wedding day to unfold. This series is going to be based upon real couples and experiences that we see every weekend. I encourage you to read with an open mind, however you should make your final decision that works best for you and your fiance/finacee.

how did this tradition start?

To put this debate into perspective, it may help to know how this tradition started. It came directly from when marriages were arranged by parents. The first time the bride and groom EVER saw each other was literally at the altar.

Kinda makes this time-old and cherished tradition a bit silly, no? There is no such thing as, “It’s bad luck to see the bride before the wedding.” Some egghead made that saying up and it has totally stuck. The person should get residuals every time someone says it!

So tomorrow, we’re going to explore ways to see each other before the wedding, but still make it something special and not just another typical day.

featured photo credit: andrew robertson photography

Continue to part two of this series…

plan on!


wedding videographer …

We talked about video today on TV. I love, love, love wedding videography – it is a great compliment to the still photography shots. Both have a place on your wedding day.

Here’s the thing. You have to make sure you are hiring a professional videographer. Do you really want to spend $2k on a package and then have the camera not focus on people’s faces (yes! that happened at one of my weddings).

Questions to ask:
1. First of all, a videographer should be seasoned enough to show you 2-3 DIFFERENT weddings. Why do you not want to see just one? Well, cause that will be his/her BEST wedding!
2. Watch more than just the highlights. Everyone’s highlights are going to be the BEST ever!
3. You can ask about camera equipment, but unless you are into that nerdy technology – it will just go over your head.
4. Instead – watch the camera angles, transitions between shots, is the editing done well and provoke emotion?
5. Tell your photographer that you have a videographer. You expect them both to work together to deliver respective quality products.

plan on!

a special note …

I would like to say congratulations to my favorite, husband-and-wife team wedding videographers, Todd and Tracy Lamkin with Black Tie Video Productions. Today is their 22nd wedding anniversary!!

We first met three years ago and as wedding vendors we stay in contact with each other bouncing off business ideas and so forth. We’ve also worked on quite a few projects together (in fact we will be working together at a reception this Saturday). They are a great team – Todd knows the equipment and best camera angles and Tracy manages the editing to give the finished wedding DVD that special human touch. It’s great to be able to recommend them – because I know they are going to be professional and dependable.

Makes you wonder… they have a video of their wedding? *wink*
Congrats you two and best wishes! – saundra