what day of the week should you have rehearsal dinner?

The grande finale of the wedding rehearsal week…..we submit to you a new idea.

what day of the week do you say?

The typical day of the week for Christian wedding ceremonies is held on Saturdays. So the typical wedding rehearsal is on the day before, or Friday evening, and of course follows the rehearsal dinner.

This year we had several wedding clients that opted to have their wedding rehearsal on THURSDAY before their Saturday wedding. This allowed them to have a really fun rehearsal dinner with the friends and family, as well as stay up longer. Talk about a real, pre-wedding event!

This idea has been so successful! The bride and groom get to relax on Friday and get some last minute errands if needed. They can get a good night’s rest on Friday evening without worrying about all the details and angst that comes with the rehearsal dinner.

couple caveats to remember

One way this wouldn’t work is if you have a lot of out-of-town members in your wedding party. Understood that many of them will take off Friday from work but can’t take off the Thursday as well. But if you are planning a local wedding you may want to consider this idea.

Some of you may be worried that you will forget the ceremony parts or your wedding party won’t know when to walk, etc. If you have a planner, then you are set…because all you have to do is show up and she’ll remember to tell you where to go and when. Also, you never have to remember the stuff at the altar anyway, your officiant will guide you through your vows.

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what happens at rehearsal dinner?

In case you didn’t notice, it’s rehearsal dinner week.

We’ve figured out the style of the rehearsal, who to invite, and who is footin’ the bill, now we need to go over what exactly is expected to happen during this event?

what are you suppose to do?

Whether you are at a country club dinner with a served, plated meal or in your backyard, this event is suppose to be more relaxed when compared to the obvious formality of the wedding. A few things that usually happens:

  1. Toasts – this is the time anyone can give a toast. You’ll want to encourage Uncle Bob to give a toast at the rehearsal dinner as opposed to the middle of your reception with 200 friends, co-workers and extended family.
  2. Gifts – couples often will give out gifts to their wedding party. This isn’t always the case, but sometimes the gifts lend itself to be given just before the wedding so it becomes a perfect time.

If the groom’s parents are hosting the wedding rehearsal this is a perfect time for the father and mother of the groom to make a toast or welcome speech; as the focus will shift at the wedding to the bride’s father and mother.

not too stuffy

We never create timelines for wedding rehearsals, except for a beginning and ending time. Rehearsals should just happen and naturally flow.

Still more to come tomorrow. You won’t want to miss it, cause it’s going to shake up everything you’ve always thought about wedding rehearsals.

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who pays for rehearsal dinner?

Still talking about your wedding rehearsal dinner….

so who pays for this shin-dig?

Most of you already know that traditionally, it is the groom’s parents that takes care of rehearsal dinner. We see that this is still pretty usual. If you have a clear vision on how you would like your dinner to flow, then you’ll want to have an open discussion with the groom’s folks.

Because technically, if they are hosting, it can be their choice of venue, food, bar needs, and decor. You’ll want to discuss finances up front so if you have certain ideas that you want to add, you may be picking up that portion of the bill.

true story:

We had a client who received $x,xxx from the groom’s parents as a gift for their wedding fund. The groom and bride applied that money towards the overall wedding budget and allocated the funds. A month before the wedding, the groom’s mother asked for a portion of the money (of the “gift”) because she had intended all along to use it for the wedding rehearsal. She had a clear vision of the decorations, food, bar, favors….all for the dinner, but didn’t communicate that to the bride. Lesson learned: Always clarify when you receive a gift of money for your wedding.

More wedding rehearsal stuff tomorrow!

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do a modern twist on your rehearsal dinner

This week we will be discussing the wedding rehearsal dinner! This is an event where families and friends can come together after the wedding rehearsal to eat and drink as a pre-celebration of the couple’s nuptials.

This entire week we will explore traditions, new ideas and what you need to know when planning a fabulous rehearsal dinner.

modern twist?

Wedding rehearsal dinners have traditionally been formal events. Sit down dinner, full bar, well-orchestrated toasts, etc. Now couples are looking for something different. Something exciting and shaking up the norm!

a more casual event…

Not surprising, couples are looking for a more relaxed event for their rehearsal dinner. They are choosing locations such as their favorite pizzeria, restaurant bar or possibly a private residence.

When appropriate they also match the casual environment by wearing jeans and business casual clothing.

if you go the route of wanting a mixer and guest mingling atmosphere then choose food that promotes that ease of guests moving around. Select food that can be easily displayed on food stations and eaten while standing.

Come back tomorrow for more details on how to really plan something different for your rehearsal dinner!

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