10 things to stop saying to a wedding planner …

Wedding and event planning is often an industry that is envied by many people. Because it just seems so easy and fun. What they don’t know is the dark parts. Here are a few things that wedding planners would like you stop saying to them.

1. I planned my own wedding, I could totally do your job!

Awesome. Planning your very own special day and selecting every vendor, making every single decision to please yourself is EXACTLY like running a business. Where you have to sell your services, please dozens of brides at the same time and get hundreds of vendors on the same page.  It’s exactly like that.

2. People actually hire party planners in this area?

Nope. I pay my bills with little sweet paper notes outlined in glitter and sticker hearts. Took awhile for my mortgage company to get on board, but they finally did after our eleventh year in business. And don’t call me a party planner.

3. Would you like to help us with our (insert any name) charity?

We adore charities and giving back to our community. However we are a small business and simply cannot donate full-blown decor for your 600 person gala. Besides, we just met you 3 minutes ago, so perhaps you could give us another 20 minutes before you ask for donations?

4. My daughter wants to be a wedding planner, can she come shadow you?

Thank you for the employee referral. We actually prefer our potential team members to reach out directly to us, send in a resume, and read our website. You see, we carefully watch how they come across and if they can follow directions.

5. I would love to help you with your next wedding!

Awesome. Just so you know you’ll be giving up your Friday evenings and your entire Saturday. At most weddings we spend an average of 12+ hours on our feet working. Sound, good? Them: *crickets*

6. How much do you make?

When is this ever an appropriate question to ask someone? Next we’ll be sharing our number of sexual partners. I guess what you are really wanting to know is if this is a viable business that you could make a living doing, since you see me being successful. I’ll put it this way, there are many other jobs I have had and made more money. But those jobs sucked the life out of my soul every single day.

7. Your job must be so fun.

It is fun. It truly is and there are some awesome perks (um, food tastings). But this is truly a job. A career. And there are so many other not fun things that we have to do: budgets, spreadsheets, finding new business, receivables, payables, selling new clients, dealing with difficult vendors, working long hours under incredible pressure, waking up at 3am wondering where your next clients will come from … it’s work. Trust me.

8. Can you tell me the best photographer in town? I’m planning my daughter’s wedding and wanted to make sure we get really great pictures.

Ahh … the free advice question. We make a living on giving referrals. It’s our job on knowing vendors and who would make the best dream team for our clients, as they are all unique and individual. But I understand, sometimes this topic will just come up. Perhaps a better way to phrase this would be to ask if we have worked with (insert name) photographer. We’ll most likely nod, smile and say yes.

9. (from a vendor) We haven’t worked together in a while, when will our next event be together?

As soon as you refer us, I suppose. Referrals are a two-way street, darling. Do you ever bring up to your clients that you know a fabulous wedding/event planner? Or do you simply give them lots of advice on vendors, decor, etc based on your experience. Which is usually not from an aerial viewpoint that we may offer. We know you love it when we send a client to you, because we have basically pre-sold you. Think about reciprocating.

10. Where did you get those beautiful linens and vases from?

In order to remain valuable to our clients, it is our job to find unique decor and hard to find props. That’s what sets us apart and garners us more clients. Please don’t ask us for all our little trade secrets that helps put food on our table. We have to hold them close.

Did I miss any? Add your own thoughts below …

plan on!

happy easter 2014!

We wish everyone a happy and beautiful Easter with your family and friends.

Hide the bunnies.


This is Meyer Hermann, sweet and adorable son of our past clients Katie and Andy Hermann. He was only six months old when he held this little bunny down for his Easter photo.

Makes us smile, every year.

plan on! xo xo

engagement photo …


Here is my real engagement photo, circa 1993. Thank goodness engagement photo sessions are much more personal, interesting and plain entertaining.


Please laugh. I am. My favorite parts of this photo?

  • Love the pose. #zzzzzzzz
  • My teased bangs. I rocked some bangs.
  • Long red, fake nails.
  • The pearls. I was totally into huge, faux pearls.
  • My husband’s shirt. We’ll just label it #whatwereyouthinking
  • I LOVED this blazer. It was double breasted and classic.
  • Hair is naturally curly.
  • We look so young. And Fresh.

Your thoughts?



happy holidays everyone!

Hope everyone is having a fabulous December! Tis the season to be crazy and of course, my family is no different. While we have a few holiday parties and meetings with potential clients, we tend to wind down for a few weeks before the end of the year. Instead of resting, I decided to repaint the house. All cosmetic stuff, but definitely time consuming. These projects have been on my list for YEARS and since the end of the world is next week, I like my house to have a facelift.

I’m sugar plum crazy.

Can I just tell you, that I can assit people to choose wedding colors in like five minutes and feel totally confident. But choosing paint for my own walls is an exhausting experience. My friends would appreciate me to stop texting and calling them about the different shades of gray (not to be confused about the 50 Shades of Gray, still haven’t read one of those books).

We have our custom planning…forever events holiday card and would love to send one to you! Drop us a comment or email to be sure you are on the list.

ps. And for a little laugh, be sure to check out an oldie, but goodie, blog post: Ten Reasons Why Santa Sucks.

pss. I just got schooled on Facebook what the Elf on the Shelf was all about. Personally it’s just another reason to buy another toy and fabricated a story for your child, but I don’t want to be a total kill joy. Although there is a great and funny blog post about this little dude.

photo credit: my iPhone, so back off copyright lawyers

plan on!



different love movies (in time for valentine’s day)…

Big Valentine smooches to all you love birds out there! We wrote a blog post on the best movies (just the last 30 minutes) in 2010, it’s kinda awesome.

So this year, let’s talk about the best love movies of all times and not given enough credit. Thus sayeth, me. You’ll notice a theme when you read through them.

When in Rome Beside the fact that Kristen Bell is insanely adorable with a smoking body, she gets to kiss on screen Jeff Duhamel. *sigh* This movie is quirky, laugh out loud funny and makes you smile. The premise: you cannot fight fate.

The Proposal Are you surprised? Sandra Bullock is a fabulous actress (good call on dumping her real-life husband) and she co-stars with, Ryan Reynolds. Both have impeccable timing with comedy and when they actually kiss for real, it’s steamy. It’s a perfectly enjoyable love story that is filled with lies and sheer comedy (thank you Betty White for your cameo).

Sweet Home Alabama Reese Witherspoon and John Lucus. A combination that is pure heaven. Southern charm and accents, city slickers from New York, a small town in Alabama and love is everywhere. It physically makes me smile while watching it and tear up with sadness and happiness. Actually own this movie.

Say Anything If you are an 80’d child, then you KNOW this movie. There is something about John Cusack… you know he’s not the hottest man in the room, but he is, just so hot. And sincere. And quirky. The female lead, I could absolutely care less about Ione Skye, sorry, she just wasn’t what you would watch on TV. However there was definitely a spark. And the ending…. with him holding the boombox over his head, playing “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel …. epic.

Notting Hill Let’s face it, Julia Roberts will and always be on some “love movie” list. She’s is awesome at this. And humor, which is a good thing. Now English films are quirky, but I like a lot of them. And while I realize Hugh Grant is not attractive. Not. At all. He does have a sort of charisma and self-deprecating charm. The movie plot is interesting (although almost 99% unbelievable) and the characters are interesting…. the sound track is pretty good too.

Letters to Juliet Did not see this one coming on the list, accidentally caught it on cable. Amanda Seyfried is unbelievably gorgeous and witty. Seriously, you can’t stop looking at her and that full head of blond hair. Her love interest is Christopher Egan (didn’t know who he was) but it totally worked. And the sheer plot is genius, all about fate and love … in Italy. For pete’s sake….

Hope Floats Oh hello there, Sandra Bullock. She is a natural as well for love and humor. I must be in love with Southern folks … I love their casualness, realness and let’s face it … boots and cowboy hats are cool. Harry Connick Jr. bats his long eyelashes and shows how a man should treat a woman.

Dan in Real Life Are you surprised? You should be. This is a seriously, eye opening and gut wrenching moving starring funny guy, Steve Carell. He’s a widower (pause for tissues) and falls in love with his brother’s girlfriend, Juliette Binoche. Just rent it … totally worth it. Great cameo by Dane Cook (the brother).

watch on!