asking for money for your wedding

This is a huge question! More couples would prefer having money as a gift than actual stuff as they go into marriage with already furnished households. So here’s the straight answer.

You can’t ask for money. Never. Ever. Period.

However…..a way around that dilemma is a new trend of “honeymoon registries”. It works by allowing you to select a certain element of your honeymoon, whether it is spa treatments, tours, meals, hotel nights and so on. Then friends and family will “buy” for you in increments as their wedding gifts.

It is a tad impersonal (Emily Post wouldn’t give it a seal of approval), but highly practical in this modern age. So, if you do go this route, please be very specific in your thank you card to your guest so they will know which amenity their gift of money was used on. For instance……”Thank you Uncle Joe for the generous gift you sent us. We were able to get an hour long helicopter ride that overlooked the beautiful island of Hawaii. This is something we will never forget and we’ve enclosed a snapshot of what we saw so you could share it with us…..”. You get the idea.

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a and b wedding Invitation lists

Clients ask me what I think about creating an A & B Invitation list. This is typically when you send out invitations to your wedding to everyone on your A list. You wait until you get the RSVP’s back and then based on that number – you send out invitations to the B list.

Your guests can figure it out

Now I may not be a rocket scientist, but I’m smart enough to figure out that if I get a wedding invitation two weeks before the wedding I’m either a B guest or this is a bride who is WAY behind her time line. Do you really want your guests to feel like second thoughts? Their wedding gifts to you may also reflect that same line of thinking!

However, if you are dead set on this method…then you need to have your ducks in a row. Send the A list out at LEAST 10 weeks before the wedding and have a very EARLY RSVP date (4 weeks before the big day). Then you can send your B list out immediately, which would be considered a standard time range to receive an invitation. But you better be on it and not procrastinate.

Personally, I think you’re better off just inviting people you really want to share your day with. Let the others just congratulate you or take you out for a beer later.

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