I was watching the morning news and came upon this subject. It’s now a clinical diagnosis of what some brides seem to go through after the wedding. And you know what? I can see this happening.
Now I don’t know if any of my brides have suffered this – I doubt they are going to actually call me up and let me know how they are feeling. However, upon my experience, I attribute it to several reasons. Wedding planning is hectic and full of details – and it becomes consuming. It’s all you talk about – and every friend or family member brings up the wedding every time they see you. I think sometimes a bride cries before she walks down the aisle only because she needs to release all that energy that has built up to this one moment. And maybe in some cases…the wedding day has become more important than the actual marriage part.
After the wedding day – the let down begins. What do you do with your spare time? It used be carrying around color swatches and tying bows on many small items. I’m not a marriage counselor or a psychologist, but my advice would be to make sure you have a balance on concentrating on both the wedding and marriage aspect (with emphasis on the latter). There is a book that talks about this, and it comes highly recommended by other professionals: “What No One Tells the Bride” by Marg Stark.
I don’t think this book is for everyone. I just encourage that if you feel like you may be all alone with these unusual emotions after your wedding….then please talk to someone or google to find some books to read. Because I guarantee you – you’re not alone.